Monday, February 21, 2011

Role Models

An apparent consistency in the business and personal arsenal of present day successes is the need for role models and mentors. Almost every way you look the art of self-improvement and corporate advancement is tied closely to the need to have influencers who can guide the journey. Seeking help from others and creating opportunities for constructive criticism is a proven plan for reaching important milestones. The question then that beseeches us all is not whether we need role models but whether the role models we choose are consistent in their dispensation of ideas. But sometimes the desires of our heart clouds the logic required to select the right role models and we end up settling for the wrong conduits of information. In a post 9-11 world, the skeptical nature of humanity has created some interesting dilemmas for those seeking advice, guidance and boundaries.

On a recent television program a purveyor of morality and a champion of countless causes got exposed by giving a platform to someone who by all subsequent revelations turned out to be a fraud. But since the good over a period of time far outweighed this one snafu the world moved on. My business and spiritual mentor Zig Ziglar who is the most consistent man I know says that a father who tells his son not to speed but uses a fuzz-buster is actually telling his child that breaking the law is a crime but not getting caught is genius. When you choose role-models look for consistency in all they do. The following is a litmus test for role-models:

1. Are they doing themselves what they advocate you to do?
2. Do you appreciate them, admire them, respect them or just want to have their life? This is important in that one is trying to emulate their characteristics while the other is trying to vicariously earn the same level of fame that they have.
3. Do these role-models display consistency in their own personal lives when the lights are not on and the camera is not rolling.
4. Do you have the same role-model for all facets of your own life? Only the Living God can be the best at everything you need. All other mortals will fall short in one or more areas.

Seek consistency in your role-models and better yet seek wisely at which model you need for each facet of your own success.
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Location:Flower Mound, TX

Monday, February 14, 2011


With the recent weather problems in Dallas and the resulting snow and ice the city came to a virtual halt. School closings and driving problems were some of the concerns as was safety and flight cancellations. In addition was this pesky annual event which caused everything to become a super headache. The fans were super mad and the reporters were super analytical. The business people were super annoyed at the super slow sales in what was predicted to be a super good economy. I was super glad to not be traveling and got a chance to make some super observations.

We don't care how bad the driving conditions are for us, but would like Chinese food to be dlievered along with pizza because it makes us feel better in our confinement. We watch the TV and hope that all the beautiful icicles and snow covered roofs would be within our view so we can enjoy the beauty but not on our roof because we might have problems. We want the government to police the utilities so that our neigborhood is never affected by the rolling blackout. We want the trash to be picked up because nothing is more unpleasant than all our garbage being frozen over a period of time for everyone to see.

Then comes the thawing and the melting and the openings and the return to normalcy. We are back to arguing about global warming and national cooling. It was at this point that I decided to look at my own garbage that had piled up in my mind and heart and remained frozen for my inner self to see. Why don't I just throw it away? It has not worked for me for a decade and yet I cling to it in desperation? Why can't I have a super trash pick up from my own doubts and fears and let go? The conclusion is that anytime my public life comes to a standstill because of things I cannot control, I will look at my private life and slowly eliminate all the trash that has piled up there. This periodic cleaning will be like the neighborhood aglow with newness and cleanliness. Like always this is my super cool opinion.

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Birmingham, Alabama

Recently I had the privelege of speaking to about 15,000 people in Birmingham, Alabama. This was not my maiden voyage there and as such the expectations of similarity governed most of the trip. The day started out with a chill in the air and dampness on the ground. Traffic was congested as people made every effort to get in on time to hear a line up of the who's who in American politics, sports and industry. Hidden in the agenda was the little kid from India who after twenty years in public speaking still gets nervous and anxious. After the introductions and the formalities that seem to dictate all speeches the change in the air began. I started to feel a connection with the audience that maybe I had overlooked in times past. They seemed to generate a warmth that egged me on. I started to motor into areas that might be controversial in some places but it was different here. They wanted me to speak my mind and share from my heart.

Is it any wonder that in this place generous giants of industry carved their legacy and civil rights icons began their marches. Itineration is not new to me and travel is something that happens automatically for us. However this trip and the resulting buzz in the Twitter and Facebook world convinced me that just when you think you have figured something out there is a neat reminder of the grandeur of it all. This week begin what you do with familiarity as that shows your experience. Then work diligently with pride as that shows your concern. Lastly anticipate the unknown with surprise as that will reveal wonder.

Friday, February 4, 2011


Everywhere we go in this world the rally cry is for equality. In created order the God of the universe chose people to be different and whether you subscribe to a worldview of random chance and mutation or one that involves creation the obvious question is still the same. Were we designed to favor equality or fairness? In all of the arenas of public discourse where I have posed this question the overwhelming response has been for fairness. Yet every law and social movement is predicated on the desire to level the playing field and promote equality.

In my own pursuits I think it was only fair that I got a chance to be a telemarketer with the famed Zig Ziglar. Fairness seemed to create an opportunity for me to compete for the position that included traveling with him as an assistant. I could never be equal to anyone else in his inner circle but could hope that he was fair in all the chances he gave me. I think it was fairness that allowed me a chance to speak on the national stage almost nine years ago. Today I am not considered an equal to the other giants in the communication realm but am glad that the audiences give me a fair hearing.

I would love to go back to my roots and provide equality to a billion of the souls who inhabit my motherland but let's be fair that is an impossibility. The best thing for me to do would be to create an opportunity where two people with equal access get the same information. In all fairness this is just my opinion and letting me have an opinion is equality at it's best.

Location:Flower Mound, TX